Table of Contents
- Introduction
- The 5 Steps to Free Yourself from Others’ Judgment
- 1. Be Aware of Assumptions
- 2. Recognize Positive Intentions
- 3. Look at Yourself in the Right Mirror
- 4. Feel Compassion
- 5. Love Others’ Judgment
- Conclusion
- FAQ: Frequently Asked Questions
Introduction
When you expose yourself online, you also expose yourself to criticism. Over the past few days, I received a few from a stranger who said:
“Another Facebook guru with no qualifications spouting nonsense to make money.” 🥲😆
That made me think—why not share how I handle criticism? Sound good?
Here’s a 5-step method to defuse the emotions triggered by criticism:
The 5 Steps to Free Yourself from Others’ Judgment
1. Be Aware of Assumptions
In this short phrase, there are at least seven assumptions:
- A “guru” is a negative person who will take advantage of you (which is not the case in Asia, where gurus are respected for their wisdom and considered teachers).
- “from Facebook” implies being disconnected from real life.
- “without qualifications” assumption #1: You need degrees to be wise and give good advice.
- “without qualifications” assumption #2: This person must not have any (without even checking).
- “spouting nonsense” suggests that everything they say is invalid, without specifics.
- “to make money” assumption #1: Using the word “money” in a negative sense, implying it’s bad.
- “to make money” assumption #2: It’s purely for selfish gain, disregarding any positive contributions.
These assumptions reveal more about the critic’s worldview, beliefs, frustrations, and fears than about me.
2. Recognize Positive Intentions
The fact that this person commented so quickly without checking any facts suggests they felt pressure to react.
I firmly believe:
Behind every action, there is always a positive intention.
(You know the saying, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”)
This comment likely comes from a desire to protect people from manipulation and deceit. Their anger isn’t directed at me personally—they don’t know me—but rather at deception, exploitation, and ignorance in general.
3. Look at Yourself in the Right Mirror
First, this message isn’t about me, so why take it personally?
It reflects their worldview.
If I feel an emotional reaction, it means my ego is involved, and a personal wound has been triggered.
For instance, it might awaken my own pressure to be seen as a good person, linked to my personal sense of injustice.
See the cycle?
Their wound of injustice triggers my own, prompting me to respond and justify myself—creating a never-ending cycle of emotional reactions. 🙃
Even though I wouldn’t act the way they did, I deeply understand their underlying emotions!
If I take responsibility for my reality, I see that this person is reflecting my own unresolved anger toward manipulation and injustice.
They are merely a messenger of my subconscious.
Their comment highlights my own sense of injustice—so I can acknowledge it.
4. Feel Compassion
Instead of feeling anger toward this person, I actually feel gratitude for the gift they’ve given me.
I feel compassion for their wounds and appreciation for the insight they have unknowingly provided.
If I were to respond, I’d simply say, “I understand you.”
Or, for those who’ve seen ‘Avatar’, “I see you.” 🙏🏻
5. Love Others’ Judgment
I shared the pictures at the beginning of this email because they remind me of a time when I was deeply affected by others’ opinions.
I didn’t know myself, and I suffered for it.
Other people’s reactions would stir emotions in me that I didn’t know how to handle.
Simply because I didn’t have the right mindset.
Simply because I didn’t understand the laws of life.
Back then, I didn’t realize…
…that I was the one creating my own reality.
MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL:
Have you received any criticism recently?
Think of one that particularly affected you.
Make a list of the assumptions behind it.
Then, identify the positive intentions hidden within it.
Look at yourself in the “right” mirror—the one reflecting your subconscious wounds.
Finally, feel compassion for yourself and for the person who made the comment.
Your negative emotion will naturally dissolve, replaced by gratitude…
Conclusion
Freeing yourself from others’ judgment is a personal growth process that takes patience and practice. By following these steps and applying these techniques to ignore external opinions, you can strengthen your self-esteem and confidence.
Remember, others’ judgment does not define you.
You have the power to create your own reality and live life on your own terms.
FAQ: Frequently Asked Questions
Why is it important to free yourself from others’ judgment?
Letting go of others’ opinions is crucial for emotional well-being and personal growth. It allows you to make decisions aligned with your values and live authentically, free from external influences.
How does self-confidence help ignore others’ judgment?
Self-confidence strengthens your belief in your abilities and worth. When you trust yourself, others’ opinions have less impact, allowing you to stay true to who you are.
How does self-esteem help in breaking free from others’ judgment?
A strong self-esteem helps you recognize your own value and accept your imperfections. This reduces the weight of external criticism and allows you to focus on personal growth.
How can you stay true to yourself when facing criticism?
To stay true to yourself, practice self-compassion and remember that criticism often says more about the person expressing it than about you. By staying focused on your values and goals, you can remain authentic.
What techniques can help ignore others’ judgment?
Techniques like identifying assumptions, recognizing positive intentions behind criticism, and developing compassion for yourself and others can help you ignore external judgment and build emotional resilience.
Go further…
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These resources will help you move forward toward a more fulfilled life aligned with your values.
